You followed him here. You built the life.

You held it all together.

Now - what about you?

There is a conversation you have been avoiding. Maybe with your partner. Maybe with his employer. Maybe — most quietly — with yourself.

This workbook walks you through it. Forty pages. Six areas of your life. One framework that has helped hundreds of expat women get unstuck and start asking for what they actually need.

You know this feeling.

The assignment is going well. The children are settled. The house is finally unpacked. Everyone keeps telling you how lucky you are.

And still.

Something has gone quiet in you that you cannot quite name.

You miss the version of yourself who had a calendar of her own. Who walked into a room and was known for what she did, not who she was married to. Who did not have to translate her qualifications every time someone asked what she does.

You have told yourself it will pass. That this is the deal you signed up for. That asking for more would be ungrateful — selfish, even. The assignment is for him. Your turn will come later. 

But later keeps not arriving.

And the longer you stay quiet, the harder it gets to remember what you would even ask for.

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  • Thoughtful questions to help you reflect on what you really need

  • Gentle prompts to start honest, supportive conversations

  • Help phrases you can use with your partner or HR — no overthinking required!

This is not a journal. This is a process.

The Spouse Package Workbook is a 40-page guided process designed specifically for women on company-funded relocations — and for any woman whose career, identity, or life direction shifted when she moved abroad.

It walks you through three stages of the See It. Name It. Claim It. framework — Heike Geiling's signature methodology — and then prepares you for the three conversations that change everything: the conversation with yourself, the conversation with your partner, and the conversation with the employer.

WHAT THIS WORKBOOK IS:

  • A structured process you can work through in your own time, in private.

  • Forty pages of carefully sequenced reflection prompts and preparation tools — not generic journal questions, but the exact questions Heike uses with her one-to-one coaching clients.

  • A practical preparation guide for the three conversations: with yourself, with your partner, with HR.

  • A budget calculator that helps you understand exactly what you can ask the company for — and why.

  • A section on what to do when the answer is no.

 

WHAT THIS WORKBOOK IS NOT:

  • A list of affirmations. There are none.

  • A book about being grateful for what you have. You already know how to do that.

  • A generic relocation guide. This is for the half of the assignment nobody prepared you for — you.

  • A coaching call. This is the work you do before — or instead of — paying for one.

 

If you have read the free 5-page version — read this.

The free taster you may have downloaded around The Claim Call asked five questions. Important questions. They were the doorway.

This is the room behind the doorway.

Forty pages, six areas of your life, three conversations to prepare for, full budget calculator, and the section nobody else writes — what to do when the answer is no. The free version helped you notice something. This one walks you through what to do about it.

Inside the Workbook

Part One

See it.

Seeing where you actually are. Not where you tell people you are at school pick-up. The real version.

 

Part Two

Name it.

The three patterns that keep expat women silent: the gratitude trap, the disruption fear, the identity blur. Recognising which one is yours.

Part Three

Claim it.

Getting specific about what you need across six areas of your life.

 

01

Career and professional identity

04

Social connection and community

02

Learning and development

05

Practical transition support

03

Emotional and mental wellbeing

06

Personal development and reinvention

THE THREE CONVERSATIONS

  • The conversation with yourself

    The one most women skip — and the foundation of everything else. 

     

  • The conversation with your partner

    Exact opening lines, the four things he likely doesn't realise, and how to make a specific ask he can act on.

     

  • The conversation with HR

    A budget calculator that shows you, in your own numbers, what is reasonable to ask for.

     

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WHAT YOU GET FOR 39 CHF

  1. The Spouse Package Workbook (40 page PDF) — the full guided process. The thing itself.

  2. A 15-minute clarity call with Heike - once you have worked through the workbook, book a private 15-minute call with Heike to talk through what came up. Not a sales call. A real conversation about what you found, what surprised you, and what your next honest step looks like. Bookable within 30 days of purchase.

  3. Lifetime access to updates - this workbook is a living document. As Heike refines the process with new clients, you receive every updated version. Free, forever.

 

Total Value: 180 CHF

Your price today: 39 CHF

This is for you if

  • You moved abroad for your partner's career, and something in your own life has gone quiet.

  • You have told yourself you should be more grateful, and it has not made the feeling go away.

  • You know there is a conversation you have been avoiding — with your partner, with his employer, or with yourself.

  • You are ready to do the work in private, in your own time, before anyone else gets involved.

This is probably not for you if

  • You are looking for a quick affirmation pack or a feel-good read. This is structured work.

  • You want someone else to do the thinking for you. This workbook gives you the questions; the answers are yours.

  • You are in acute crisis. If that is where you are, please reach out to a therapist or crisis service first — and come back to this when you have ground beneath your feet.

What Expat Women Say About Me

Heike creates a rare coaching space where you reconnect with your true self and grow into your full potential.
Minako Okuma
I truly appreciated Heike’s holding of space for us to explore ourselves and what it is that we want for ourselves. Heike built a safe space and through her invitation to get curious about ourselves meant being transported to a place of reflection and receiving powerful insights to move forward with energy and inspiration.
Jeanine Bailey
What I appreciated in Heike’s session is her calm, open and extremely friendly energy and way of working. Heike creates a productive yet relaxed atmosphere that makes it easy to explore what’s on your mind (or better, under it) and translate that into action. Her questions invite reflection.
Hanneke Schepers
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Heike Geiling

Founder of Expat Women - Connect & Grow

I’m Heike Geiling — Mentor for Expat Women, Coach, and founder of Expat Women – Connect & Grow.

I've been a serial expat for over 20 years - across five countries, countless reinventions, and more than one identity crisis. I've climbed the corporate ladder, led teams across 27 countries, and built my own business from scratch - all while raising three kids and starting over again and again.

So believe me when I say: I know what it feels like to lose yourself in the process of holding everything together abroad - the career, the family, the "new life". But I also know what it takes to come back stronger, to stop shrinking, and to finally create a life that feels like you again.

What that means for you: I help expat women who followed their partners abroad reconnect with themselves, rebuild confidence, and find purpose - so they stop just surviving and start living fully.

My focus: honest conversations, powerful mindset shifts, and real-life strategies that help you redefine what's possible - on your own terms.

Because you did not come this far just to play small.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • The free version was 5 pages of opening questions. This is a 40-page guided process with the full framework, the budget calculator, the three conversation guides, and the section on what to do if the answer is no. The free version asks you what you notice. This one walks you through what to do about it.

  • You can. Many women try, and many get stuck on the same question for weeks because they do not know what to ask themselves next. The value here is not the questions in isolation — it is the sequence. Each section builds on the last in a deliberate order. You are paying for the order, not the prompts.

     

  • No. The workbook is written for women on company-funded assignments because that audience has the most invisible structural support available to them — and the most reluctance to claim it. But the framework applies to any woman whose career, identity, or sense of direction has shifted because of a relocation, a partner's career, or a major life transition.

  • No — and that is a deliberate design choice. The partner conversation section is built around clarity, not complaint. It includes opening lines that frame the conversation as collaborative rather than accusatory, and it teaches you to make specific, actionable asks rather than vague emotional ones. Most partners want to help; many simply do not know how. 

  • Once you have worked through the workbook, you can use this booking link to schedule a private 15-minute call with Heike: Book time with me. The window is 30 days from purchase — long enough to actually do the work, short enough to keep momentum. The call is not a sales pitch. Heike will ask what came up for you in the workbook, where you got stuck or surprised yourself, and help you name your next honest step. Most women find the call is what turns the workbook from a nice exercise into something that actually shifts.

  • The workbook is designed to stand alone. But if it opens up something bigger — a question about your career, your identity, or what comes next — Heike's 12-week coaching programme Your Choice is the next step for many women. There is information about it at the end of the workbook itself, and Heike will be in touch with you after your purchase with details. No pressure either way.

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